The oldest is very independent. Always has been. (Some would say she's like her mother.) She's content to be by herself. Now, that's not to say that she doesn't spend time with friends and family but she's perfectly happy if she's the only one around. She's happy to read a book, listen to music or find other ways to amuse herself. She has the ability to make herself laugh and smile. And I think it's wonderful. She can be her own best friend and that is a fabulous quality.
Our second is more like her father. She prefers to have someone close by. She can keep herself busy but only for a short while. And that's ok too. She is always more than happy to have some time with mommy. And that's ok with me for I know the years of having her at home are numbered and before long she'll have other things to fill her time with.
This girl and I have an evening ritual. We read together.
On a perfect day it's lights out for her at 9:30pm. So at 9:00 we settle into her bed with a good book and read for about 20 minutes. Currently we're reading this...
Nancy Drew was a very good friend of mine years ago. I spent many hours with her on adventures and it gives me great pleasure in sharing them with my daughter. (Oh, and this is something I did with my oldest daughter too.)
There's nothing better than sharing a good story and some quiet time together at the end of the day.